There’s a word for young families that are raising young kids and trying to take care of their marriage. You may think that that word is XANAX…or SURVIVAL but the word I’d like to offer young families is better than that and I hope a little freeing.
The word is…”IMPERFECT”. Here’s what I mean by that. First of all, don’t think of the word “SETTLING”. I’m not suggesting that in marriage that you get used to the idea that things suck now and life is just like that.
I’m suggesting that perfect is sometimes the enemy of enjoying life in the now.
So when I say life is imperfect, I’m not saying that you should just settle and accept a life that sucks. Quite the contrary. I’m telling you that God has a plan for your marriage but taking steps toward making it better might not look perfect but they will work.
The problem is that you think back to your marriage before kids and compare it to that. Or you see relationships on TV, movies or people that have the “perfect” marriage not knowing what happens behind the scenes. You see the perfect then you look at your IMPERFECT and you think something is missing or wrong.
To enjoy your marriage as a young couple, you have to embrace and enjoy the imperfect (Because that’s where life happens). It starts by realizing that God has called you to “One Life” together. Not two separate lives but a life where you love sacrificially, think the best of one another not the worst and get on the same page.
I’ll be back in a few days to take this one step further. We’ll talk more then.
Matthew 19:4-6,“And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”